If you’re reading these words, you’re probably experiencing the indescribable pain of Parental Alienation. Being alienated from children that you love is one of the most painful things a parent can ever go through. I’m sorry that both you and your children have been subjected to such a brutal form of abuse.
Parental Alienation is simply the clinical term to describe when one parent intentionally turns their children against the other parent.
There are numerous sites that deal with the subject of parental alienation. Most of those sites belong to doctors, counselors, or attorneys. They share facts, information, and tools, but most of them haven’t lived through the life-changing pain and heartache of a parent that has lost their children’s love because of the agenda of a malicious ex-spouse.
I was in a very difficult marriage for 11 ½ years. Two years after my divorce I went through a horrible custody battle involving my two sons. What happened during that time was so surreal that even now it’s hard to believe that it really occurred.
I’ve experienced firsthand what a vengeful ex-spouse is capable of doing to their own children in order to achieve their goals. I’ve lived through the injustice of a family court system that gives lip service to what’s in the best interest of the children, while at the same time destroying your family.
I’ve dealt with industry professionals (psychologists) that meant well but were unable to reverse the psychological and emotional damage they assessed had been inflicted on my children by the children’s mother and the family court system.
“Parental Alienation is about parents who place their own selfish needs above those of their defenseless children and in doing so, they deny them their right to love and be loved by both parents.”
Dr. Reena Sommer
Parental Alienation – The Ultimate Hate Crime
Watch this short video to better understand parental alienation and the damage it causes.
The two boys you see in the video are my sons. I’ve been separated from them since February of 1999. My boys were ages 4 and 7 at the time we were pulled apart.
Identifying and Battling Parental Alienation
It’s crucial to be able to identify and understand the symptoms and repercussions of PA in its early stages. It’s extremely hard to overcome the effects of severe Parental Alienation over a long period of time.
Our Commitment to You
- Keeping Families Connected is committed to providing you with resources and strategies to help you deal with and heal from Parental Alienation and high conflict divorce.
- We provide you with resources to deal with personal issues that are common to being separated from your child such as: loss, grief, anger, forgiveness, and how to gain perspective and hope for the future.
- We’ll always encourage you to take the higher road. Don’t give in to anger and bitterness. If you retaliate with the same tactics, you become no better than the alienator. That doesn’t mean that you should be passive, but being the healthy and responsible parent takes work and great self-restraint at times.
“Alienators do not fit the stereotype of the deficient and ill-equipped parent. Instead, these parents are generally articulate, resourceful, and competent in all other aspects of their lives – except in the realm of parenting. In fact, these individuals might easily be mistaken for ideal parents, except to the properly informed, because they profess love and concern for their children. What sets these individuals apart from other dysfunctional parents is their overwhelming commitment to meeting their own needs first. In doing so, they destroy the relationship their children have with the other parent – at whatever cost.”
Dr. Reena Sommer
The Alienation Nightmare – Helping Others Understand
A powerful free resource to educate family and friends about what is happening to you and your child.
Being alienated from a child is horrible. But being unable to convey the depth of damage being inflicted on you and your children to family and friends makes it even worse. We’ve written this powerful resource to help those around you better understand the danger and severity of what you and your children are experiencing. Educating others is the first step in getting their help to fight this insidious form of child abuse.
You are not alone
If you’re feeling totally isolated, and that no one understands what you’re going through, go to the “PA Around the world” section of this site. You’ll find stories from others around the world that feet the same way.
Surviving long-term PA
The number one question that I’ve gotten through the years is ‘How did you survive”?
I’ve written a 4 part article called “Surviving the Pain of Parental Alienation” explaining my journey. I share tangible resources, tools and actions that can help you if you’re struggling with the difficult circumstances and emotions associated with PA.
If you’re subjected to a severe level of PA, you’ll be shocked, disillusioned, grief-stricken, and angrier than you ever thought possible. And if you don’t take the steps to work through these emotions positively and proactively, they’ll eat you alive.
For legal, medical, parenting, family, emotional or spiritual resources go to the “ Resources” section of this site.
If you know of another parent (or child) that has been subjected to parental alienation, please send them to this site for these resources. Divorce is never easy. But cases involving children and this form of child abuse are heartbreaking for everyone involved. We are here to help. You are not alone!
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