We have compiled a list of resources broken down by categories. To make it easier for you to find what you need we are providing links whenever possible. So many of these books/resources have become dear friends and have help shape who we are today. We hope you enjoy them as much as we have over the years.
We are NOT affiliates of any of these resources and do not benefit financially.
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Section #1: Faith
In my personal opinion, this first group of books and web resources deals with the absolute most important aspect of what is going on in your life right now. “Where is God in all of this?”
Some of you may be screaming those words while hot tears are streaming down your cheeks. By now you are probably angry and disillusioned with life itself, and possibly even with The One who created us. All I can tell you is this, in my personal journey “everything that others meant for evil pointed me to a God that loves me deeply and will never leave or forsake me, even when, no, especially when it seems that I am wounded, forgotten and alone. Sometimes the only way you know that you’re alive is the pain…”
These books will reveal, or at the very least re-acquaint you with, the God of the universe that loves you and your children. He is not some “feeble well-meaning old man” on a cloud somewhere. Nor is He “impotent or uncaring” about you or your children.
He WANTS you to seek Him in your pain. He loves your children more than you ever could. Find out what His plan is for you and all those “who are called according to His purpose in Christ Jesus”. His plan may surprise you, but it will definitely encourage and bring healing to you in the midst of the storm.
Focus on the Family
Turning Point Ministries
Insight for Living
Section #2: Healing From the Devastating Effects of Divorce
From our experience dealing with thousands of individuals who have experienced a divorce, most people will tell you that their divorce was one of the most painful and stressful times in their life. Healing from divorce is a process that is often long and uncomfortable but worth every bit of effort you put into the healing process. In addition to the books below we would recommend that you don’t try and go through your divorce alone. Hook up with a DivorceCare group in your area. It’s a place where you will find caring people who understand the issues you are facing.
Section #3: Dealing with your emotions and getting rid of the baggage
Most of the time our emotions serve us well. Without them it would be impossible to feel love, compassion, mercy and even grief. But sometimes our emotions become our master, leading us down paths that are fraught with danger, and are abusive to those around us. These books can help you to set healthy boundaries with those that would harm or take advantage of you and your children, while also freeing you from destructive habits and patterns in your life.
Section #4: Marriage – don’t fall into old patterns with a new spouse
What is the last thing you EVER want to go through again…Another divorce! Commit to investing the same amount of time and effort to build an awesome marriage with your spouse, as you would to build anything of great and lasting value. You better have a plan! And a bunch of skills and basic understanding of the opposite sex wouldn’t hurt either would it? There is hope after divorce!
If you think being married is difficult, wait until you start blending families! It can be great if you are equipped with effective parenting skills and have worked through your own issues, but it can be a nightmare if you haven’t. I would encourage each one of you that is considering starting another family (or blending one) to equip yourself with the best tools that you can find. Both you and your family will be glad you did.
Section #5: Parenting skills that can change your life
Parenting even under normal circumstances this is not an easy task. During and after a divorce, these tools are needed more than ever. The following section offers help to anyone interested in learning how to effectively and lovingly parent their children. Become the very best parent you can be your children are worth it.
Section #6: Helping your children through your divorce
Our children are the innocent victims of our choices and the choices of our ex-spouses. As parents we need to help them in the healing process. The following books are excellent resources that help children work through the tough and even heart-breaking issues of divorce and a “broken” family.
Section #7: Parental Alienation – the “ultimate hate crime”
These books will explain what Parental Alienation is, how it is used, and how to help your children when you encounter it. A “must have” for anyone experiencing problems with their children, created by Parental Alienation!
Section #8: Going deeper in your Faith
In this section you will find resources to help you go deeper in your faith. We start with the bibles and commentaries we love and use on a regular basis. We have also added some churches that we know are solid Bible teaching churches. There are many more and we will add some as we can. The last section in this section are praise and worship songs that have touched us and been a great blessing to us.
We know how difficult it is to find good churches with solid Bible teaching. These are just a few of the churches we have attended over the years. We encourage to seek out a local church to connect with. Barb and I attend a local church but often go to other sources during the week to continue to dig deep and build our faith.
Calvary Chapel Chino Hills
Chino Hills, CA
Pastor Jack Hibbs
South Spring Baptist Church
Pastor Chris Legg
Shadow Mt. Community Church
El Cajon, CA
Pastor David Jeremiah
Mars Hill Community Church
Powder Springs, GA
Pastor Tom Gray
These are just a few of the songs on our playlist that have helped us during some of the most difficult times in our lives. We hope that you will come to love them as much as we do.
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