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Today’s episode is part 3 of a 3-part series on The Top 3 Reasons for Divorce.
We suggest listening to parts 1 and 2 first if you haven’t already. Today we’ll discuss the 3rd most highly reported reason for divorce. Conflict and arguing.
In review, the top 3 reported reasons for divorce are:
Lack of CommitmentInfidelity/AffairConflict and arguingFinancial problems, substance abuse and domestic violence are on the list, but none of them come close in reported frequency to the top three.
Today we’ll cover the most common landmines that can turn disagreements and different perspectives into destructive communication patterns that can destroy a marriage.
We’ll provide powerful tools to help you establish a framework of communication techniques and perspectives that will prevent an escalation to intense conflict and arguing.
To be clear, when two people enter a marriage, there will always be a difference in their thought process and perspectives. And although this can be challenging at times, (there’s an understatement) it usually results in a better decision-making process when both perspectives are valued and taken into consideration.
The key to success here isn’t never disagreeing about something. It’s to work through those disagreements in a way that doesn’t attack, demean and destroy your spouse.
Suggested resources:
Love & Respect – Dr. Emmerson Eggerich5 Love Languages – Gary ChapmanIntimacy Ignited – Joseph & Linda DillowLaugh Your Way to a Better Marriage – Mark GungorLoving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away – Gary ChapmanHow to Have That Difficult Conversation: Gaining the Skills for Honest and Meaningful Communication – Dr. Henry Cloud and John TownsendMake Anger Your Ally – Neil Clark Warren