How difficult is your spouse and why does it matter?
Your spouse’s personality type is a major factor in determining the cost, conflict, and risk that you’ll incur as you go through your divorce. Your financial settlement, parenting rights, reputation, and even your safety, are all at risk if you’re married to a controlling, high conflict, or difficult spouse.
The greater number of these items that describe your spouse, the more difficult, costly, and dangerous your divorce will likely be.
- Friends, family or coworkers consider your spouse to be high strung or difficult
- They are easily offended
- Your spouse can be demanding, argumentative or controlling.
- They speak degradingly to you (or about you) in front of others including your children
- They attempt to limit or interfere with your interaction with your children
- Or they dump all the responsibility of caring for them on you while they do whatever they want
- You’re concerned they may hide assets
- You’re concerned they might attempt to “win” in court by getting an aggressive attorney
- You find yourself “walking on eggshells” because you never know what might set them off
- They’ve threatened to leave with the children or they believe they’re a much better parent
- They lie without remorse
- They become aggressive or manipulative if you disagree or fail to comply with their wishes
- They have difficulty taking responsibility for their actions or being held accountable
- No matter what type of conflict they’re in, they’re aways the victim in their mind
- There are only two ways of doing things, their way and the wrong way
- When they become angry, they lose control and become threatening or volatile
- They have an extreme alcohol or illegal drug dependency
- They hold others to a higher standard than themselves
- They believe they are entitled to get their own way
- Threaten to harm you or your child if you divorce or leave them
- Threaten they won’t provide financial support that you would be entitled to if divorced
- They have a criminal record
- They have been accused of domestic violence in a past relationship
- They have abandoned or neglected children when responsible for caring for them
How many of those descriptions matched your spouse? If they matched several items, you’ll need every tool available to contain and diffuse a potentially very difficult, high conflict and costly divorce.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make.
Most people fail to realize the incredible danger they’re in until it’s too late. They have no idea the lengths their spouse will go to, to get what they want. Difficult personalities don’t play by the same rules as healthy well-adjusted people do. Take a look at our Extreme Personality Types page if you still have questions about the potential dangers of a high conflict divorce,
After assessing your spouse, you should also honestly evaluate yourself. If any of the traits in this test described you, use this information as a guide to help you guard against these tendencies in yourself.
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